For as long as I could remember, my hands had always seemed busy making and creating things. So when it came to intimacy why did my hands suddenly seem so clumsy? The truth is that none of us are taught about pleasure, we just do our best. Life’s challenges can make it more difficult for some of us, but believe me, given the right guidance and tools it really is possible to find, regain or increase the pleasure that we experience, despite life’s barriers.
No one in my life had ever discussed sex with me in terms of orgasm, arousal or pleasure (outside of the technical aspects of intercourse). It wasn’t until my early 30’s that I finally met someone that was able to provide me with a safe space to explore and experiment with pleasure. This new experience was liberating and it fuelled my interest in pleasure. As a trained teacher I was aware that regular practice was a powerful way to master complex skills, such as learning to drive a car, or playing a musical instrument. Given this knowledge, I started to wonder whether it could be possible for someone to train themselves to experience pleasure.
My curiosity and yearning to understand pleasure fueled my interest in intimacy and sexuality, so much so that I changed my career path. By my mid thirties I had already helped many clients, but unfortunately for me the “Erotic Formula” still felt like a mystery. Then, in my late 30’s I discovered Sexological Bodywork and my prayers were finally answered. Following three months of conscious practice I finally taught my body how to experience pleasure. This journey has been transformational and life changing for me, and is a beautiful wisdom that I am eager to share with others.
Betty Martin: Training for practitioners – Consent, boundaries and clarity – 2019
Rosalie Samut: Diploma in Hawaiian Huna Massage – 2017 (ongoing)
Ellen Heed & Kimberly Ann Johnson, Pelvic Health: Scar Tissue Remediation Education and Management – 2016
Institute of Somatic Sexology: Certificate in Sexological Bodywork – 2015 – 2015
Private Coaching in Tantra & Surrogate Partner Therapy – 2014
Strode College: Level 3 Diploma in Complementary Therapies – Massage, Reflexology & Aromatherapy – 2012 – 2013